11. Balance of communication: a harmonious state of contacts between man and man, man and nature, man and society, man and himself. The basic principles of balance of communication: knowing one's own situation and that of others, conciseness and efficiency, equality and freedom. Whoever the other party might be, one should first cultivate himself into a sincere, kindhearted, upright and enterprising person. Four rules of conducts are recommended as follows:
(1) Honest: One must be honest, as honesty makes one feel like a king.
(2) Kindhearted: Be equal and kindhearted. Equality is first shown in respect. No respect, no love.
(3) Upright: Be a man of integrity and hate evil like an enemy.
(4) Enterprising: Have thought and capability, and be good at communication.
The “universal ethics” should be abided by in the communication—Never impose upon others what you dislike yourself. Mind if others like what you like. Mind if the public like what we like. Practice benevolence according to the common principle. The heaven, the earth and the people will all like it once it stands to the feeling, reason and law.
Four cases of communication:
(1) With individuals: Be a small man first and then a gentleman. Be polite in doing business, then everyone will be happy.
(2) With employer: Be a small man first and then a gentleman. Act in accordance with the regulations, instead of feelings.
Either case, make a concrete analysis of specific conditions. For instance:
When dealing with an overmatch: be neither humble nor arrogant, but equal. Otherwise, argue strongly on just grounds and make every effort to persist.
When dealing with the disadvantageous: be kind and patient, take them as friends, and try to help them for no repayment.
When dealing with friends and rivals: praise their strong points and correct your own shortcomings. Be sincere and modest, with proper comities.
(3) With nature: take a correct stand and seek harmonious development.
(4) With oneself: being self-restraint and obedient to reason with perseverance.
Communication is the key to realizing goals. We advocate that one should first show respect to others, and abide by relevant rules with other people. It needs skills to coordinate between “want” and “should”, and both follow the rules of “being self-restraint and obedient to reason” and “associating according to the priority of position”. Mutual understanding and concession will lead to paradise, while greedy desires to hell. It’s the same with bilateral relations between countries.
人 与 人：己人欲否、依理施仁。
Man and man: Mind if the public like what we like; practice benevolence according to the
Man and society: Make full use of one’s ability;
Man and nature: Get along equally for harmonious development.
Man and self: Coordinate the body and the mind, being self-restraint and obedient to reason.
Development goal: Ecological economy, cultural homeland.
Appraisal standards: Orderly increase or decrease of overall interests.
To sum up, the issue of subsistence exists all the time, and speaking of development, no advance means going back. Along with the advance of the times, the civilization of human society should also keep progressing with “the individual seeking balance for subsistence and the group seeking coordination for growth”, and “the enhancement of both the changing requirements for historical progress and the qualifications of individuals”. Efforts should be made to eliminate war, violence, hegemony, terrorism, hypocrisy, fraud and other conducts that go against contemporary civilization.
Attachment: Rules of social morality:
1. Getting on vehicles or walking in the street—Get aboard from right and getting off from left. Ladies first. Those sitting in the back get on first. Those get aboard earlier sit in the back and those getting off earlier sit in the front.
2. Distributing goods—The one who distributes the goods gets his share last.
3. Body language—Speak and behave decently with poise, as they reveal one’s cultivation and demeanor, and may affect his expectation.
4. Acts speak louder than words—Be straightforward. Don’t gossip or talk nonsense. Act more and speak less.
5. Nine “stresses”—Stress loyalty, stress reasons, stress laws
Stress humanities, stress science, stress innovation
Stress the nation, stress the collective, stress the individual