7. Neighbor balance: a harmonious state with neighbors.
According to ancient Chinese, a family in discord will be bullied by others, and a discord with the neighbor will cause troubles. Conflicts are hard to avoid during the frequent contacts between neighbors, especially in rural areas. “If the family lives in harmony, all will prosper. If one has a good neighbor, there will be peace.” To get along well with the neighbors or keep neighbor balance, here are three tips:
(1) Abide by social morality. If members of all families can first abide by social morality, and try to understand each other and make mutual accommodation, the situation will be better and better.
(2) Mutual respect and help. Think and learn more the strong points of neighbors, and speak good of them. Whenever they need help, spare no effort to give a hand with no expectation for repay. Do not drop in to trouble them on ordinary days, otherwise, call them in advance.
(3) Distance produces beauty. One should try to get well with neighbors, but intimate relationship should be avoided, as intimacy may produce reverse effects. It’s advisable to find a “balance point” and create “friendship between gentlemen”.